Every year, Valentine’s Day suddenly shows up everywhere. Pink stories, heart emojis, dramatic captions, playlists that feel way too emotional for a random Tuesday. And if you’re not dating anyone, it can feel like you missed some secret memo that everyone else got.
But honestly? Most of us are just… existing. Some people are posting couple pictures, some are pretending they don’t care, and a lot of us are somewhere in the middle; scrolling, laughing, maybe overthinking a little, and then moving on with our day.
For me, Valentine’s Day has started to feel less like a “relationship test” and more like a vibe check. It’s not always about grand romantic plans. Sometimes it’s just sharing memes with friends, sending that one random “you okay?” text, or eating something nice because you felt like it. The quiet parts of the day, the conversations that don’t make it to social media, honestly feel more real.
There’s also this weird pressure to define where you stand. Are you talking to someone? Crushing on someone? Completely over it? The truth is, most of us are still figuring themselves out. And that’s not a bad thing. Not having a Valentine doesn’t mean you’re missing out, it just means your story is still unfolding in its own way.
There’s also this weird pressure to define where you stand. Are you talking to someone? Crushing on someone? Completely over it? The truth is, most of us are still figuring themselves
What I’ve realised is that the day doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s highlight reel. You can celebrate friendships, enjoy your own company, or just treat it like any other day with slightly better music recommendations. Valentine’s Day isn’t only about who you’re with, sometimes it’s about noticing the people and moments that already make you feel understood. And maybe that’s enough. Not loud, not dramatic, just real.
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